What is a Toxic Love Bond?

A Toxic love Bond also known as a Trauma Bond occurs when two emotionally wounded individuals come together in a relationship creating high-intensity triggers and chaos.

Usually, this happens because both parties have subconscious “familiar” wounds from childhood that cause them to be attracted to each other.

In a toxic love cycle, there’s usually a partner who is a “LOVE ADDICT” & another partner who is a “LOVE AVOIDANT”

The love addict is usually triggered and chases when the love avoidant decides to leave the relationship. Love addicts usually ignore red flags in the hopes that they can “change their partners” without actually looking at the exact reality and current dark side of their partner.

The love addict has a fear of abandonment which makes them think that’s the “best” they can never get at love and they have a subconscious belief that they are not worthy of “healthy love”. Love addicts have a low self worth, need constant communication, hates being on their own, can be extremely jealous and hyper vigilant of their partner.

The love addict’s need for closeness and intimacy usually triggers the love avoidant’s need for freedom and independence.

However, The love avoidant has a fear of being controlled which make them usually feel like they are being choked or trapped in the relationship and they run to avoid intimacy, some switch relationships with the hopes they can find better kind of love where they don’t feel trapped or controlled.

Love avoidants have low self worth, hate showing their emotions, runs away when overwhelmed, super sensitive to criticism, always quick to find reasons to leave their partner.

So where does these wounds come from?

The love addict is usually raised my parents that were abusive, neglectful, emotionally unstable and unavailable.

The love avoidant was shamed in childhood for showing their emotions, and had parents who were controlling, critical, and forced to put their parents’ needs above theirs.

These wounds don’t only affect romantic relationships but also money.

When both parties finally decide to heal, they will attract better and emotionally healthier partners and have a lasting romantic relationship.

So which sounds familiar; A Love Addict or a Love Avoidant? Comment below!

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Wishing you sweet lasting love as always,

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