How to survive a devastating breakup

The reality of surviving breakups is a lot deeper than clichès like, “you can do it” or others like “just move on!”

The truth is, it is never easier done than said.

Breakups can be tough, whether you were the one who ended things or not (but personally, I think it’s a lot tougher when you are at the receiving end.)

The good news, however, is that they may be tough but not insurmountable. They can be survived. Heck! They can be better than survived if you simply pay attention to the next few lines of this article.

In this post, I will take you through the steps you will need to follow to not only survive after a major breakup but thrive too. Let’s dive in!

Let your emotions flow

It’s perfectly fine to grieve as hindering your emotions will only slow your healing process. Cry, scream, write in a journal, or talk to a close friend or therapist. Remember, it’s okay to feel vulnerable and seek support from others.

Don’t beat up yourself over what you can’t change 

It’s very easy to play the blame game when you’ve just had a breakup. Usually, the loser is you. Cry if you feel like it but do not blame yourself. 

Be kind to yourself throughout the healing journey and show yourself the same understanding and love that you would offer to a dear friend in distress.

Remember, breakups happen to everyone, and it’s not your fault.

Establish boundaries 

You must know that your emotional health is more important than any other thing. 

If you find yourself in contact with your ex-partner, set clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Consider limiting communication or taking a break from contact altogether. This space will allow you to gain perspective and focus on your personal growth.

Avoid self-pity 

Do not fall into the horrible habit of self-pity. It can breed anger, jealousy, and a host of other detestable feelings. Hold your head high and be happy for your own good.

Practice self-care 

It’s easy to lose yourself during an emotional breakdown. You may have no desire to look attractive or happy anymore but you should know that this is a highway to depression.

Do things that make you happy, like exercising, spending time with loved ones, meditating or even dressing up!

You have a right to be happy.

Avoid Rebound Relationships

While seeking comfort in new connections might seem tempting, it’s essential to give yourself time to heal before entering a new relationship. Rebounds can often mask unresolved emotions and hinder your ability to truly move on.

Engage in New Experiences 

Breakups can create an opportunity for personal reinvention. Embrace new experiences and challenges to expand your horizons and regain a sense of purpose. Trying new things can boost your confidence and lead you to unexpected joys.

Give yourself time 

Genuine healing takes time. Be patient with yourself and recognize that it’s okay to have good and bad days. Gradually, you’ll find that the pain lessens, and you’ll emerge from this experience with newfound resilience.

In Conclusion 

Remember, surviving a breakup is not about erasing the memories but rather about learning to live with them in a healthy and constructive way. Embrace the journey of self-discovery, and in time, you’ll find that you’ve not only survived but thrived through this challenging chapter of your life.

If you need help in your healing journey so you can bounce back better, click here!

Talk soon.

Sarah.