Here’s why you should stop trying to change your man’s behavior

Are you guilty of this?

You find yourself Always give your man unsolicited advice in EVERY situation. As harmless as This behavior may seem, it destroys the masculine-feminine dynamics in a romantic relationship.

Now that I have a broader understanding of human behavior and transformation, I had to let that girl go.

You may be thinking, “I just want him to be better.”

Maybe he snores, he doesn’t go to church, he’s an addict, or he overworks.

Whatever it is, stop trying to change him

Change comes from within, and it’s entirely his choice.

Maturity is understanding that Every individual is going through a personal life journey and transformation. Some will go through a lifetime and never change.

So don’t try to manipulate him to change or even give unsolicited advice. This is not to excuse a man’s poor behavior or blame all his bad behavior on childhood trauma. He’s an adult, and he has the choice to work through his flaws. And we’re talking about an individual with years of good and bad life experiences, tons of programming in his head, and more.

Instead, Lean back, if a man is behaving in ways you do not like, ask yourself, if he doesn’t ever change, can I live with this for the rest of my life?

Also, ask yourself, do you want your kids to exhibit these behaviors in the long run?

If he’s cheating and clearly refuses to change, this can make a woman and even the kids eventually sick mentally and emotionally. It’s necessary you set healthy boundaries in your relationship.

When a man has bad behavior, it’s a sign of poor self-image and it can be healed. If you’re married to a man that is emotionally immature with an unhealthy self-image, we teach how it can be healed in the Cherished & Committed Program.

Marrying a man or even having multiple kids will not make him want to change his bad attitude. A person changes because they have made the decision to become a better person and are willing to put in the work.

Can a woman inspire and influence a man to change? Good question

Yes, a woman who understands how men think and how to use the power she has can inspire her man to be greater than he is. You don’t get a man to change by pushing or forcing for him to change. You get him to change by pulling away from the idea of him changing and focusing on you being a better individual.

In my Cherished & Committed Program, we teach women how to inspire a man to be better without directly “forcing” him or manipulating him to change. Click here if you want to be a part of it.

Sound ironic? Read through the last paragraph again.

Trying to change an individual is trying to control him. And honestly, you can only control yourself. You cannot control another human being, especially in a romantic relationship.

Are you trying to change your man? Are you done trying to change yourself? Yes, you! You have your own secret bad habits. Instead, work on improving yourself and your people skills as human beings, and you will no longer notice the flaws in your partner.

This is one thing that is difficult for us as women because we are wired to be caretakers.

Mothering a man or giving him love, hoping it will change his behavior, doesn’t work.

Relationships should be about having fun, loving each other, and growing together through life. Not constantly pointing out your flaws and trying to change each other all the time. If a relationship is not making your life better at least, then it has become a situationship.

Remember to choose a love that chooses you daily, despite your imperfections.

To learn more, Click here if you’re ready to level up in your love life.

Wishing you more love and happiness,

Sarah